Friday, June 08, 2012
And it all blows over...
It is hard having a special needs child in a mainstream school.
There is no way that Miss 6 should be in a specialist Autistic school, she is far too high functioning for that ever to have been on the table, but there are schools with programs for gifted students with learning disabilities, and schools that are different to hers, ones that run at a much much slower pace. You see I have my girls at a private selective primary school. In fact its one of the top schools in the state. And, I'd just like to boast here, Miss nearly 8 is one of the top students in her class. Already onto Year 3 work in some subjects, despite being just half way through Year 2.
Yep. In a school of little clever sticks, I have one of the very cleverest little sticks.
I do not push her, by the way. She likes to learn, she likes to do her homework. I never, ever nag her to do it. If she doesn't want to, its up to her.
It wasn't until the end of last term that I actually realised how well she was doing. I met the other Mums for coffee, they were all... "Isn't Miss Nearly 8 doing well..." and I was all "Yeah, whatevs..." and they were all... "No, she's doing REALLY well, how did you not know that??
So I asked the teacher, and she was all... "Didn't you know??"
Yes. A Tiger Mother I am not.
Ahem. I digress. Back to Miss 6. So, as you can see, its a fast paced school with high academic goals. Miss 6 is very happy there. She is a much loved member of the school community, and everyone knows her. All the staff, from the groundsmen to the Headmistress keep an extra special eye on her. But lately I've been wondering if she should repeat, or change schools... I'm wondering if she's in an environment in which she can never succeed, and if its fair to keep her there.
To change her school would be hell, and so would be repeating her. It would be tough on all of us no matter what we decided.
Following Monday's debacle I met with the headmistress to discuss Miss 6. I was not ready to have that meeting, it was foisted on Hubs and I, but ultimately it was a good thing. Everyone is clear on where we stand AND I was able to bring up a few issues (such as a spot of bullying).
The part that pleased me the most was that the school is willing to keep Miss 6 with her class, but teach her at her own pace. Through primary and, if needed, into High School. Tailor a program to her. It could be a good solution.
I still don't know. I have a billion questions to ask of everyone that is involved with Miss 6, the school and us. This is such a big deal, after all. There are so many pros and cons, and I want to make sure I consider them all.
So, calmness at Chez Nicholas is kind-of restored. We spent today at the athletic's carnival. Miss Nearly 8 won a ribbon. I missed it because I was at Westfield buying a hip flask of scotch to keep me from freezing to death on the sidelines.
Yes. Mother of the Year, me.
Whitterings of Caitlyn Nicholas at 4:56 PM